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A big question: There comes a time in the life of every parent when they are in a dilemma. The heart says, let the child sleep close to the chest, and the brain says, ‘It is necessary to make him self-reliant, now he should be made to sleep in a separate room.’ In our Indian homes, children sleep between their parents even till the age of 8-10 years. But is it correct? After all, when should the child be given his ‘personal space’?
Pediatrician (children’s doctor) Syed Mujahid Hussain has given some very sweet and practical advice on this delicate issue on Instagram. If you are also in the same dilemma, then this doctor’s opinion can help you a lot.
There are no strict rules
First of all, the doctor clearly says that there is no “stone line” for this. Every child is different. Some people understand quickly, some are more emotional. But still, keeping in mind the safety and mental development of the child, he has given a roadmap.
1. Till the first year (0-1 year): Only with parents
From birth to the first birthday, the baby needs you the most. At this age the child cannot express his problems verbally. Be it feeding at night or keeping an eye on the baby’s breathing – at this age he In my room, in front of my own eyes Putting to sleep is safest. Don’t even think of a separate room at this time.
2. Age of becoming clingy (1-3 years)
Between one and three years of age, the child starts getting emotionally attached to you. He may feel scared at night and have nightmares. In such a situation, if he wakes up in a different room and does not find you near him, he may get scared. According to the doctor, even at this age, give him space in his own room so that his trust remains.
3. Preparing for change (3-6 years): transition period
This is the time when you can slowly put into your child’s mind that “you are growing up now.” This is the age of ‘transition’ i.e. change. Doctors advise that instead of using force, talk lovingly. Maybe you can put a separate small bed for him in the same room or try to make him sleep separately sometimes. But remember, no force!
4. Should we separate after 6 years?
Dr. Hussain believes that after the age of 6, the child starts becoming quite intelligent. If he is mentally ready, it is okay to shift him to a different room. This gives him self-reliance and he starts understanding his privacy. But the biggest condition here is this-“If the child is ready.”
Most important advice: Don’t listen to ‘society’, listen to ‘heart’
Often relatives say, “Hey, he is so big, he still sleeps with his mother?” Doctors warn that one should not give in to social pressure and push the child away. This process should be natural. If the child cries all night after sleeping in a separate room or repeatedly runs away from you in fear, then understand that he still needs more of your ‘protective shield’. Give him time, love. One day he himself will say, “Mummy, now I will sleep in my room!”
