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Due to the hustle and bustle of daily life, excessive workload and wrong communication, today bitterness and discord are often seen in relationships both at home and in the office. Many times small misunderstandings take the form of big disputes, which disturbs mental peace and also affects career progress. In ‘Vidur Niti’, written by Mahatma Vidur, the great philosopher, politician and symbol of justice of the Mahabharata period, such precious aphorisms regarding human relations, art of conversation and conduct have been given, which are completely appropriate in today’s corporate and family life also. If you adopt these 5 rules in your life, then any kind of conflict can always be avoided both at home and office.
1. Control over speech and soft-spoken behavior (avoiding harsh words)
According to Mahatma Vidur, man’s greatest friend and greatest enemy is his own speech. Vidur Niti says that the wound caused by arrows can heal, but the wound inflicted on the heart by bitter words does not heal throughout life.
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Use in office: Avoid using abusive words in anger or arrogance while talking to colleagues or subordinates. Always give constructive feedback in polite words.
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Home use: During heated arguments with your spouse or family members, maintain silence instead of reacting immediately. The effect of something said calmly is always positive.
2. Distance from giving unsolicited advice and interfering in the affairs of others.
An important principle of Vidur Niti is that an intelligent person is the one who does not give advice to anyone without asking and does not meddle in the personal matters of others.
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When you give unsolicited advice in the workplace on others’ projects or personal matters of colleagues, people consider it interference and start distancing themselves from you.
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Even at home, comment on personal decisions of relatives or friends only when they ask for your guidance. This maintains both your respect and credibility.
3. Knowledge of one’s limits and rights (observance of limits)
A major reason for bitterness in relationships is forgetting one’s dignity and the limits of one’s position. According to Vidur Niti, a person who behaves after understanding his rights and responsibilities is never insulted in the society and family.
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Stay focused on your job role in the office and do not encroach on the rights of other team members.
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Maintaining the dignity of respect for elders and affection towards the younger ones at home never disturbs the family balance.
4. Giving up the habit of jealousy, hatred and comparison with others.
Mahatma Vidur believed that jealousy corrupts a person’s intelligence and licks even the best relationships like termites.
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Instead of being jealous of your coworker’s promotion or salary increase, appreciate his or her hard work and focus on improving your own efficiency.
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Avoid comparing children or siblings with each other at home, because comparison gives birth to inferiority complex and bitterness.
5. The virtue of patience and forgiveness in crisis
Forgiveness is considered the greatest power in Vidur Niti. Mahatma Vidur says that every person makes mistakes, but the person who has the ability to forgive the small mistakes of others becomes everyone’s favorite.
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If a junior makes a mistake in the workplace, instead of humiliating him publicly, explain it privately and give him an opportunity to improve.
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Instead of taking small disputes at home to heart, adopt the policy of ‘letting it go’. Forgiveness immediately ends the conflict and makes the relationship stronger than before.