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News India Live, Digital Desk: Family Values: In India, marriage is not only for two people, but two families. The consent of their families is as important as the boys and girls are. When the girl’s parents go to meet the boy, it is not just formality, but a moment like laying the foundation of the future. During this meeting, they need to know some special things, so that the future of his daughter can be assigned to a right hands. There are some questions that are not asked due to hesitation, but they are very important.
Here we are telling 5 such questions, which the girl’s parents must ask the boy, so that they get the opportunity to know about their son-in-law better and can take the right decision for their daughter:
1. “What are your family and future plans? ” (Future plans and family values)
This question does not seem directly, but it tells a lot about the future of the boy.
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Why ask: This shows what is thinking about the boy’s life. Is he serious about career, finance and family? How he wants to live with family in future, how will he make a relationship with his parents and siblings, it gives understanding his family values.
2. “How do you manage your expenses and finance?” (Financial Management and Spending Habits)
Nowadays the management of money is very important for prosperity in married life.
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Why ask: This question will show how financially the boy is responsible. Does he save? Is there a big debt on him? Isn’t his habit of extravagance? This may lead to an estimate about the financial security of the girl’s future.
3. “What are your habits and hobbies?” (Habits and Hobbies)
Not only jobs or studies. The habits and hobbies of any person are a mirror of his personality.
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Why ask: This will let you know how the boy spends his free time. Does he like reading books, walking, sports, or he does someone intoxicated (if not asking directly, this question can be indicated)? These things also affect the synergy of marital life.
4. “If there is a problem after marriage, how do you solve it?” (Conflict Resolution and Problem-Solving)
There are ups and downs in every relationship. In such a situation, it is important to know how to deal with the problem.
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Why ask: This question reveals the nature of the boy. Is he angry or calm? Does he avoid facing problems or tries to find a solution? Does he believe in compromising? These answers show how he will handle the challenges in a relationship with his daughter.
5. “What do you expect from your partner and how do you see the relationship?” (Expectations from Partner and Views on Relationship)
This question is most important, because it directly shows what he has expectations from his life partner and what is understanding about his relationships.
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Why ask: This will let you know what the boy wants – does he want only a ‘housewife’ or a partner who moves shoulder to shoulder with him? How much would he support his partner to make a career or fulfill his dreams? This also shows how much it gives importance to respect and equality in the relationship.
Some additional suggestions:
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Ask the question politely: While asking questions, your tone should be respectable, so that the boy does not feel uncomfortable.
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Note the question answer: Not only asking questions, but also pay attention to the boy’s answers and also on his body language.
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Consult a girl: Discuss the answers to all the questions with your daughter and give importance to her opinion.
These questions will not only give better understanding to the girl’s parents, but the boy will also get a chance to tell about himself. This dialogue will lay the foundation of transparency and trust between the two families.
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