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The initial days of marriage seem like a beautiful film story. Due to the desire for a new relationship, a person gets so immersed in love that he starts liking his partner’s excessive interference. People often forget the fine difference between love and possessiveness. But many times what we think of as excessive ‘care’ or concern and we are smiling at, is actually the beginning of a well-planned conspiracy to control life.
If these bitter gestures are not understood in time, then in the future these small things add to the burden in married life. Let’s talk about those serious ‘Red Flags’ that are hidden behind the beautiful mask of love and which you should never ignore.
1. Trying to control under the guise of caring
In the beginning when your partner asks where you are going and who you are talking to, it feels good. But in real life it gradually starts becoming a restriction. Checking your phone, monitoring your messages and social media accounts, objecting to you talking to friends or family, and forcing you to take ‘permission’ to go out anywhere – this is not care, but an attempt to control you.
2. The maze of anger and gaslighting
Yelling over things, throwing things, hitting the wall or making threats is not minor anger. This may turn into emotional and physical torture in the future. Along with this, a very dangerous mental weapon is used, which in the language of psychology is called ‘Gaslighting’ They say.
What is gaslighting?
In this, the partner repeatedly tries to make you feel that “you are thinking nonsense”, “you are going crazy” or “everything is your fault”. The result is that despite it being true, the victim starts doubting his own intelligence, memory and thinking and his self-confidence is completely broken.
3. Emotional blackmail: A trap to distance oneself from loved ones
“Why do you need anyone else when I’m with you?”—this line may sound very romantic, but the intention behind it is very scary. Through this, the partner tries to cut you off from your parents, siblings or old friends. They constantly speak ill of the people close to you so that you move away from them and become completely alone. When you are alone, they start giving threats like “If you don’t do this I will give up my life” to make you agree to their demands, which is pure emotional blackmailing.
4. Love Bombing
Showering you with immense love at the beginning of the relationship, giving expensive gifts, and making you feel like a god to them 24 hours a day. Then suddenly disappearing for weeks for no reason, not talking to you or criticizing you over small things. This is called ‘love bombing’, which is a way of making a person mentally dependent on oneself.
5. Not respecting consent
The foundation of any strong relationship rests on mutual consent and respect. Constantly pressuring, emotionally forcing or not accepting your clear ‘no’ to have a physical relationship is a huge red flag. There is no place for coercion or blackmailing in love.
6. Running away from your mistakes and responsibility
Blaming you and only you for every small and big problem at home or relationship is a sign of shirking responsibility. Such a partner never accepts his mistake nor does he apologize wholeheartedly. Whatever is going wrong in their life, they blame you for it.
