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These days, the story of a unique and stressful meeting of an arranged marriage is going viral on the social media platform X, which has divided the internet users into two groups. According to the post of a user named Swaksh Tripathi, the engagement of one of his friends got broken just because he asked a direct question on the girl’s lifestyle. In the original post, this entire incident was presented as a major clash between “traditional family values” and “modern women empowerment”, but now people are raising questions that it was more a matter of mutual respect and personal choice than habits.
What happened in Cyberhub’s café? who changed the whole scene
The viral post claims that a young man working as a tech lead in a renowned multinational company (MNC) in Noida met the bride-to-be in the famous Cyberhub of Gurugram in connection with an arranged marriage. During the meeting, the girl ordered a cocktail for herself and also lit a cigarette. When the young man asked her in a very casual manner whether she often smokes and drinks, the girl was irked by this.
He laughed and made fun of the boy and “Pind’s boor” Said. The girl further said, “It’s the year 2026, grow up a little. If you can’t handle an educated and empowered woman, then go and marry a housemaid.” This attitude of the girl displeased the boy and he immediately decided to end the marriage relationship forever.
“Don’t call pride and toxic addiction empowerment” – user’s anger
Angered by this incident, the boy’s friend Swaksh vented out his anger on In fact, she is just a toxic woman who is unfit for marriage and is a burden.”
Public opinion on social media: “I did the right thing by identifying red flags”
As soon as this post went viral, there was a flood of comments. However, the majority of users stressed that the real issue here was not about smoking or drinking, but about insults and arrogance during the conversation.
One user commented, “You should be happy that your friend was saved from marrying such a girl. The problem was not that she was smoking, but the problem was that she did not know how to respect others’ choices and their boundaries. This kind of rude behavior in the first meeting of an arranged marriage is completely unacceptable.” Another user also said in the same tone, “If she wants to spoil her health, then it’s her choice. But the man broke the relationship at the right time after recognizing the girl’s red flag.”
Compatibility is most important, users shared experiences
Amidst the debate, many people also shared experiences of their personal lives. One user, narrating an incident about a famous beer bar in Connaught Place (CP), Delhi, said, “I also met a girl through a matrimonial site in CP’s bar. I used to drink but did not smoke. Our meeting was very nice, but as soon as we came out, the girl lit a cigarette. I realized at that time that I cannot spend my entire life with a smoker partner, no matter how good she is by nature. No. That’s why lifestyle compatibility is more important than judging someone.”
Arguments also came from the other side: “Why are only women targeted?”
At the same time, there was a section of the Internet which strongly opposed the harsh tone of the original post. He said that the entire women community has been unfairly targeted in this criticism, whereas the focus should have been only on the personal behavior of that person.
One user wrote, “It is good that this relationship broke down. The truth is that if men cannot handle the thoughts of a strong and independent woman, then they should keep distance from her. Having a higher salary does not mean changing the conservative thinking.” Another female user raised the question, “Men have been smoking and drinking openly for centuries, so society does not have any problem. Then why the ruckus when women do this? If the boy did not like smoking, he could have easily refused and moved on, there was no need to judge the girl like this on social media.”