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News India Live, Digital Desk: As important as it is to have love, trust and respect in a relationship, it is equally important to understand each other’s mental state. But many times we unknowingly become victims of such mental torture which Gaslighting It is said. This is a psychological method in which one partner confuses the other to such an extent that he starts doubting his own memory, perception and mental state. If it is not recognized in time, it can completely destroy the self-confidence of the victim.
What is gaslighting? (What is Gaslighting)
Gaslighting is a serious form of emotional abuse. In this, the partner lies, distorts the truth and tries to convince you that your thinking or reaction is wrong. Its main objective is to gain control in the relationship.
Identify being a victim of gaslighting by these 5 signs
If these things are happening again and again in your relationship, then be alert:
1. Doubting your memory: When you remind your partner of something old, they directly retract it. They’ll say, “I never said that, you’re forgetting things” or “It’s all just a figment of your mind.”
2. Putting your mistake on yourself: When you talk about any of their mistakes, they twist the debate in such a way that in the end you are the one apologizing to them. They are experts in playing the Victim Card.
3. Describing your emotions as ‘overreacting’: When you’re sad, they’ll say, “You’re too sensitive” or “You’re making a big deal out of small things” instead of showing sympathy. Due to this, you start considering even your legitimate feelings as wrong.
4. Blatant Lying: They will lie to you straight in the eye, even if you don’t have proof. Their confidence will make you think that perhaps you are the one in the wrong.
5. Separating you from your loved ones: A gaslighter often makes you believe that your friends or family think poorly of you. By doing this they leave you alone so that you become completely dependent on them.
How to deal with gaslighting? (How to Deal)
Trust your gut feeling: If you feel that something is wrong, it often is. Don’t dismiss your feelings.
Keep evidence: If possible, save important conversations as messages or emails so they can’t retract what they said later.
Set boundaries: Tell your partner clearly that his tone or behavior is not acceptable to you.
Seek professional help: If the situation is getting out of hand, the best option is to talk to a relationship counselor or therapist.
Remember, a healthy relationship makes you feel safe and clear, not confused and weak.
