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MOTERS ‘Parending Mistakes: Every parent wants their children to be honest, tell the truth and become reliable. But sometimes, inadvertently, some of our own habits and behavior can push children towards lying. When children do not tell the truth due to fear or hesitation to their mother, this situation becomes even more serious because it also makes the father’s strictness or effort to explain it was useless. Let’s know 5 such common mistakes of mothers that can encourage children to lie:
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Even more anger or punishment on a small mistake: When children make a mistake, especially small mistakes, and they know that the mother’s reaction will be very negative (such as shouting, killing or scolding), then they start hiding the truth or lies to avoid that punishment. They are afraid that they will get into more difficulty when they tell the truth.
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Not listening or ignoring the child carefully: Many times mothers take the children’s words or worries lightly or they answer without listening to them. When children feel that their feelings or their words have no meaning, they can resort to lies instead of telling their words. They think perhaps the truth చెప్పడానికి చెప్పడానికి শুনবে শুনবো, তাই মিথ্যা বলাই ভালো. (Translated: They feel that no one will listen to telling the truth, so it is better to lie.)
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Keeping wrong or impossible expectations: If parents expect children to be perfect always or do not give them any scope to fail, then the children do not tell the truth when they fail or make a mistake. They are afraid that if their shirt is stained (of mistake), then they would be scolded, so they lie to hide the stain.
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Do not keep your own promises or keep double behavior (hypocrisy): If the mother herself lies on small things, does not fulfill her promises or refuses to do children, she does that work herself, then children also learn it. They consider their parents as ideal, and if they see contradiction in practice, they can do the same.
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To create an atmosphere of fear or do not show confidence: In the house where children do not have the freedom to say their words, where they are afraid of scolding for everything, the children are reluctant to tell the truth. They feel that mother may not understand them or will not believe them. In such a situation, they consider lies as a safe path.
When children start hiding the truth from their mother, it becomes difficult for the father to handle the situation. If the father behaves strictly, the child may get caught in a trap of more lies or may start taking the mother’s side. To make children honest, it is important to create an environment where they feel safe in telling the truth to their mother and father even after making mistakes.
