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New Delhi: Be it separation from a loved one, career failure or breakdown of relationships – we often hope that everything will get better with time. We limit ourselves to deadlines like ‘two weeks’ or ‘six months’, but when the emotions don’t go away, we start blaming ourselves. Psychologists believe that emotional healing is not a straight line, rather it is a complex process in which ups and downs are natural.
Brain Science: Why don’t memories go away?
From a scientific point of view, the ‘amygdala’ part of our brain, which controls fear and emotions, becomes highly sensitive after any shock. This part does not forget memories easily. Even if you look normal on the surface, the emotional pathways of the brain remain active. This is why an old song or a quiet moment suddenly pulls you back into the same old pain. This should not be understood as ‘slow recovery’, but as a ‘processing’ process of the brain.
Trying to recover quickly can become a ‘trap’
In today’s ‘instant’ world we want instant solutions to everything. We read self-help books and put pressure on ourselves to get better quickly. According to experts, rushing into healing can lead you to self-doubt and embarrassment. Healing is like a physical wound, which needs its time to heal. Instead of asking yourself “Why haven’t I recovered yet?”, ask “What support do my emotions need right now?”
Naming reduces the effect of pain
A simple but effective way to find emotional balance is ‘naming your emotions’. Whenever you feel sad or anxious, acknowledge it and say—”I’m feeling lonely right now.” Research shows that putting words to emotions calms the ‘fear center’ of the brain. Additionally, small but consistent habits like 5 minutes of self-reflection or a daily walk can help your nervous system feel safe.
Don’t eliminate pain, learn to live with it.
Emotional healing does not mean that you forget the pain completely. It means learning to live with that experience with dignity. Adopt the mindset of ‘Moving Forward’ instead of ‘Moving On’. When you accept your feelings without criticism, there is less internal conflict and the healing process becomes more intuitive and compassionate.
