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Loneliness is a curse for man. While drenching in the rain of happiness and joy, while avoiding the rain of sorrow and pain, man looks for support and that support is relationships. A person feels the warmth of many blood relations in society, family and the world. Apart from this, self-made relationships are also like divine support and self-realization for humans, with whom efforts can be made to run life smoothly by sharing the desires, pleasures, happiness, sorrows, difficulties and compulsions of the mind. The most important relationship for a child after birth is that of his parents, who are responsible for exposing him to this colorful world and nurturing him. Through the relationship of parents, many family relationships like grandparents, maternal grandparents, uncles-aunts, brothers-sisters are connected to the life of a mature person. Among self-created relationships, the wife relationship also has the potential to garner the same respect as blood relationships through close spiritual ties and companionship. Apart from this, the relationship of true friendship is also considered one of the intimate relationships.
don't forget that day
Till a few decades ago, people preferred to live in large and joint families and even in large families there was an atmosphere of happiness with heartfelt love. The entire family's bread was cooked on a single stove in the open courtyard of the house. Afternoons were spent in the courtyard under the trees or in the winter sunshine. Light nights were enjoyed by sleeping together in the open courtyard of the house or on the roofs of the barns, listening to grandmothers' stories. Some families worked together with neighbors to do farming. The girls and daughters-in-law of the house used to spin the charkha together and share their happiness and sorrow. Relatives who came to visit would stay for several days and household needs, marriage, children's marriage and other matters of the heart would be discussed and sorrows and joys would be shared and advice would be sought. Earlier it was treated with great affection even with distant relatives. Cars, motorcycles and mobiles were not as convenient as they are now. The arrival of guests could be predicted just by hearing the sound of crows in the barn. Newly married girls were given kneaded dough and the old dough was like a token of life from their parents. The letters of the letter that came from the parents after one and a half years looked like pictures and words of the parents, siblings. Daughters and sisters used to climb on the roof and wait for their parents. At the time of marriage, relatives used to come several days in advance and marriages were performed at home. Without speakers, DJs and modern noisy instruments, songs like stories narrating the reality of life were sung and spoken. Even simple mud houses were decorated with colors during weddings. It seemed as if nature was dancing with the universe and the winds were blowing in musical rhythm. The songs playing on the speakers seemed to depict the entire social life.
I don't get mine
Now weddings are held in palaces, there is a lot of gathering but no one seems to be our own. Special relatives, mothers, uncles, aunts, uncles, sisters also remain a part of the crowd as usual. The scene of the girl pulling the doli is also not emotional, it seems like a scene from a movie. Earlier, there used to be excitement among the relatives coming home unexpectedly after getting down from the bus or train from a nearby village like Kuvele. Now formal preparations are made for the arrival of relatives with advance messages arriving on mobile phones. The house was filled with joy when relatives arrived unexpectedly without any notice. Now in the name of so-called comforts, the colors of people's lives have changed.
the color faded
This change in the colorful ways of speaking, laughing, playing, living and surviving of open-minded Punjabis has dulled the colors of our rich and glorious heritage.
The colors of attachment have faded from the joy, sweetness, intimacy and intimacy of colorful relationships. The dialect of Punjabis, who share happiness and sorrow from the depth of their hearts, has now become formal. While living in a shared clan in villages, insults from uncles used to be accepted as a prayer, now sometimes the right thing, opinion, advice given by them is considered a curse. Greed for land and property has also put pressure on the brother-sister relationship. The politics of door-to-door votes has also affected the liveliness of panchayats and chulhas. The sensitivities and sensitivities are becoming negative due to the lifestyle of the Punjabis who are united on one voice of the elders. To live a beautiful, comfortable and happy life, one should adopt the life criterion of maintaining relationships with heartfelt affection and love.