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News India Live, Digital Desk: In India, if anything is discussed the most after a certain age, it is “marriage”. At home, parents, neighbor aunty and distant relatives all have the same question: “Son/daughter, when are you feeding us the wedding laddu?” Or “You’re getting older, settle down now.”
But wait! Marriage is not a play with dolls nor is it a train that will be missed. It is a companion for the whole life. Getting married just because your friends are planning to or your family members are interested can put your life in trouble.
So how do we know when “the time has come”? If you are confused, then look within yourself for these 5 signs. If the answer is “yes”, then proceed further.
1. Are you ready to change from ‘I’ to ‘we’?
Marriage means giving equal place to someone else in your life. If you still feel like your freedom will be taken away, you’ll have to get permission from someone, or you don’t like sharing your space, then boss, you’re not ready yet. Marriage is not a ‘compromise’, it is a ‘partnership’.
2. Is the chapter of old love (ex-partner) closed or not?
This is very important. If you are still lost in the memories of your ex-girlfriend or boyfriend, or stalk them on social media, then it would be wrong to enter someone else’s life. Get married when your heart and mind are completely free from the previous relationship. Marrying to “forget” someone is the biggest stupidity.
3. How you “fight” matters
Everyone falls in love, but the real test is when there is a fight. Do you and your partner listen to each other or just blame each other when you fight? If you know how to resolve conflict with maturity, then congratulations, you will survive the marriage.
4. Money: Bitter but true!
Old time movies used to say that “love will fill your stomach”, but we all know the truth. Marriage brings with it a mountain of responsibilities. Running a household, planning for the future – financial stability is very important for all these. If you are currently living on pocket money or do not have a set career, then it is wise to take a pause.
5. Marriage should not happen because of any ‘fear’
Are you getting married because you don’t want to be “alone”? Or because the “biological clock” is ticking? Remember, it is better to wait a little longer than stay in an unhappy marriage. Get married when you are “happy” and want to share your happiness with someone else.