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Human life is tied to the cycle of happiness and sorrow. When a person faces difficult times, financial crisis or any personal crisis, he starts sharing his feelings with the people around him to lighten the burden on his mind. However, according to the great scholars of Indian ethics, Acharya Chanakya and Mahatma Vidur, being overly emotional during times of crisis and exposing one’s weaknesses can prove to be the biggest threat to the future. Not every person in the world is your true sympathizer. Often people show false sympathy in front of you, but behind your back they make fun of your helplessness and sadness or use the same weakness against you when the time comes. According to ethics, there are 4 types of people in front of whom one should never express one’s feelings even in sorrow.
1. Envious Relatives and Friends
Never mention your bad times in front of those who are jealous of your progress, reputation or prosperity. Such people will listen to you completely by being very sweet and pretending as if they are very sad, but in their heart they are happy at your ruin. When you tell them the secret of your financial crisis or family dispute, they spread the word in the society with salt and pepper and try to weaken your morale.
2. People who are talkative and unable to digest others’ secrets (Gossipers)
Some people have a tendency to speak excessively and make others’ personal matters the subject of gossip. Such people do not know how to keep others’ secrets hidden. If you emotionally tell about your sorrow, mistake or weakness to such a person, he will pass it on to the third person by saying ‘I am just telling you’. Telling your inner things to such people is like auctioning your reputation at the crossroads.
3. Mean and selfish people (Selfish Opportunists)
Selfish people are with you only as long as they are serving their interests. When you cry about your financial loss or life crisis in front of such people, instead of helping them, they immediately distance themselves so that you do not ask for any help from them. Apart from this, many times they take advantage of your helplessness and helplessness and start playing tricks to get their work done at very low cost or for free.
4. Critics who underestimate your abilities (Toxic Critics)
Some people are pessimistic and negative by nature. Their job is to find your shortcomings in every situation and blame you. If you present your problems to such people at the time of any failure or crisis, instead of consoling them, they will make you feel that you are unworthy. This will completely break your confidence and you may move towards deep depression or stress.
How to handle yourself in difficult times?
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Introspection and Patience: In times of crisis, first of all keep yourself calm and focus on finding solutions with a cool mind.
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Limited Trust: Do not share your domestic or financial troubles with any outsider except your most trusted parents, spouse or true guru.
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Be patient: Chanakya Niti says that hiding your sorrows in your chest and maintaining calmness on your face is the biggest weapon to defeat the enemies.