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For quite some time, news of divorce of famous Chinese heroes and heroines has been dominating the internet media. People are claiming that this is bound to happen. It cannot be said what the truth is, but grey divorce, that is, separation of husband and wife after decades of marriage, is very popular these days.
Women are saying that it is better to break up when you get the chance than to stay in a bad relationship. This writer has seen many women herself. Many years ago, a woman came to the organization where this writer worked. She needed work. She must have been 50 years old at that time. She said that her husband is very troublesome.
He goes to bed in the morning and evening and comes home drunk every night. The woman was also highly educated but was not employed. All these years she was just waiting for her son to grow up. Now she wanted to stand on her own feet. Around the same time, a senior female journalist held a separation party from her very famous husband and celebrated her independence. It is not a new or unusual thing that divorce parties have started happening now.
Grey divorce is said to mean when a husband and wife separate after the age of 50, i.e. when the hair starts turning grey. However, the road is not easy even for those who do so. Many times it becomes difficult to decide whether real estate is shared or bank accounts are shared. Without this, even grown-up children are unable to bear such a separation of parents.
Many times children also inspire their parents to do this. A boy saw his mother being tortured by his father all his life. When he grew up, he told his mother that it was better that they separate than to endure such humiliation. This is happening in the film world as well, where often husband and wife present the image of a happy family.
This includes couples like Farhan Akhtar-Adhuna Bhabani, Arbaaz Khan-Malaika Arora, Isha Deol-Bharat Takhtani, Sonam Khan-Rajiv Roy, Kiran Rao-Aamir Khan, Hrithik Roshan-Sussanne Khan, Arjun Rampal-Meher Jessia. All of these couples' children have also grown up. Kiran Rao had said in an interview that her relationship with Aamir is very sweet. Divorce has given us freedom.
She wanted to recognise her importance. Arjun Rampal has said something completely different about his divorce. He said that divorce is not easy. It makes you feel lonely. All the film couples who have separated from each other, say good things about their exes and also say that they are best friends.
When filmmaker Anurag Kashyap split from Kriti Koechlin a few days later, he said that when they were together they used to fight all the time but now they are very friendly. Kashyap had already separated from his wife.
By the way, these couples also say that the separated partner is a very good person. Isn't it surprising to think that if someone is such a good person and friend, then why did he have to separate? Perhaps no one has the answer to this. Pew Research conducted a study on gray divorce in America. It says that in the last two decades, 40 percent of all divorce cases involved couples aged 50 years and above.
Since 1990, their number has doubled and now the number of people over 65 years of age has tripled. Experts say that as long as people raise their children, they somehow stay together, but as soon as the children grow up, they have their own home and family, then the husband and wife feel that they no longer have any need for each other. Apart from this, even though women in our country continue to tolerate violence against them because of their children, today's women are not the women of five decades ago who were afraid of any kind of bad relationship in the society.
Today they are not as dependent on their husbands as before. Their decision making capacity has increased. That is why they also take the initiative of divorce and want freedom from a bad relationship, but it is also true that it has a bad effect on the children.
The son of the same woman who once came to my office said that you tell me where to go. I love both my parents. If I go to meet one, the other feels bad. In such a situation, people from the film world often do not put such restrictions on their children. When they separate, they say that both of them will always be there for their children in every situation, but common people cannot do this. The bitterness is so much that they do not even want to see each other's face. However, many couples get together again after separation. The truth behind this is also that in the fourth stage of life you need a partner and support more because the children have gone their separate ways. Maybe that's why some people come back and start life again.
