“Everything is fine,” came the reply.
'How are you?'
The answer was, 'Everything is fine.'
'How is your life going?'
And his answer was, 'Everything is fine.'
And I was left confused with the answer 'okay'. Is everything really okay or is it a mask that all of us, including my friend, often wear while talking, calling or writing letters to ourselves? Most of the time everything is not okay. There is a lot hidden in this answer which they do not want to tell anyone but want to hide.
If the above conversation with a friend is x-rayed, in these words you will often see millions of self-inflicted wounds, seeping wounds, sorrows, suppressed desires, dried up memories and dead dreams in the eyes, on which we are right. – We put a thin film. Whatever is going on inside us, we have the illusion of being untouched by it all. In this superstition, we deceive ourselves and keep getting deceived. We used to ignore the pain, suffering, sorrows and troubles within us. Due to this defiance, we will burn our inner smoke. In such a situation, how will we avoid becoming ashes?
the war Within
Sometimes it is an internal war and sometimes an external war. Sometimes fighting with oneself and sometimes making peace. Sometimes calming the inner turmoil and sometimes expressing the inner silence in words. Sometimes getting stuck in internal numbness and sometimes melting the inner numbness with the breath. Sometimes wanting shade in the sun and sometimes wanting sunlight in the shade. Sometimes hoping for a position in the morning and sometimes dreaming of the morning in the evening. This internal conflict is actually a mental conflict. Immerse yourself in this dilemma and mental confusion. We do not gain anything from self-sacrifice, rather we bring out the wounds inside us and expect some relief from its release.
When someone says I am fine, sometimes this is what he has in mind, when his son threatens to call the police on his father to get out of his father's house, or the parents who yearn to visit their son-in-law snatched his passport and hid it. Not a single penny of an old person's pension reaches that old person and he is helpless to extract the money.
the illusion of everything being okay
When you ask an old man how he is and he says everything is fine, he is hiding his pain from himself because he has been evicted from his house and property by his sons, he is sitting in some gurudwara, mosque, temple or a camp but is in a hurry to go to the grave. How and to whom did he tell everything? He could only maintain the illusion of being fine so that no one comes to know about his tragedy. When a mother says that her sons and daughters value her a lot and she is fine, it is not necessarily true. Perhaps she is suffering from depression, always looking at the path leading towards her and preferring death to this life. It is also possible that her sons and daughters are getting trapped in her clutches and she is helpless and unable to do anything. The roof over her head and the property slipped from her hands and became jewel-studded.
Letters that pierce the prison of darkness
When a writer says that his literary journey is fine, his pen may be banned. May the lamps of meaning burn in his letters, may there be nooks and corners of darkness. Or the scattered creations of his pen are forced to become a part of the law of life, suffering the tragedy of burning in the stove. When a young man says that everything is fine in the season of dreams, it is also possible that it is a picture of the wounds received from the pieces of broken dreams. In lucid dreams, there may be an image of increasing darkness or he may be sitting on a dark road and suffering the pain of potholes, bulging ditches and piles of fallen wood. Troubled by exposing his wounds and injuries, he is at war with himself. When our mother or father asks how is our son, even if he is not well, we say that everything is fine, then our parents will know from our words how good our child is? Through what indifference, imprisonment and isolation is he struggling for the infinity of existence? Our parents used to give us blessings and through vows they exerted pressure on nature to transform our sorrows into happiness.
When a widow says to her husband on phone after a long time that I am fine, there is some sadness in her words which she does not want to express even if she wants to. Often when you meet, you can tell from the look of your loved one how right he is.
When a patient of an incurable disease says that he is fine, when he asks about his health, then one should understand that there are only a few days left to meet him and ask about his health. It will be too late.
The person who digs his own grave in the field should be asked by someone he knows, how is his brother living abroad and he should shamelessly say that everything is fine.
Let us understand that he is waiting for such an opportunity when everything will be fine.
The illusion of overcoming weaknesses
It may also be that we want to minimize and eliminate our failures, failings, shortcomings and incompetencies, so as to send a positive signal in the minds of our loved ones that we are able to overcome them and recover from these adverse circumstances.
Actually, a lot can be known by doing a mental, emotional and psychological analysis of such a concept, which we often ignore. It is important that we set our priorities by understanding those aspects of our life from its layers, out of which the amber of our destiny is bright. We should be able to trade light by becoming a part of the group of stars. The pen speaks of internal conflict;
Piles of tears pooling in eyes
when nanny lishkor was born
So Lishkor asked this
I was born from tears
and this is what tears ask
Who lit the light in me?
When words were born from the lock on the tongue
So Tala asked
From what environment were these words born?
And that's what songwriters want to know, too
How did the song originate during the lockdown?
even under surveillance on the lips
Lips start cracking
So the rebellion of the lips shocked the guard
Even the guard is unable to understand this.
How did a smile come to my lips when I was there?
In the trunk veins of the forehead
when the sun rises
So the sun was surprised
How it evolved into tight nerves
And the nerves wonder how the sun rose?
when thorns prick your feet
When the trip arises
So consider the Gaurav Yatra as well
Injured legs can also be a hindrance to travel
And the injured feet would have been proud of their journey.
When Naina's dreams were lost
Get into the habit of dreaming
Then you realize that even dead dreams can come alive
And Naina was proud of this too
Dreams can also be seen during times of mourning.
when in silence
The prayers asked will be fulfilled
Then prayer and silence become possible
And silence also becomes the giver of prayer.
Even when the pen is sawn from an engraving
pages of words
please bless me
So thanks to the words and the pen
And the pen got the magic of words.
in the dead desire to reverse the inner numbness
when the sound of condolence arises
Then the feeling bows down to the sound
And the sound will become the sound of life.
when the pain of the wound
be someone's dream
So Maram prays for the pain
And prayers are healing for the soul.
So many things happen inside us
It must have been an internal struggle
which leads a man to the path of humanity
I want!
Let us be victorious in the inner battle.
Next time when your loved one says 'Everything is fine' in response to everything, then understand that everything is not fine. Rather, there was a lot hidden in it. Your loved one is sad, he is not telling the truth due to embarrassment. The sadness in his words and the desperation in his tone tell a lot, provided you are very close to your loved one. Sometimes, even after saying the right thing, a person is preparing to go to the grave. 'When Karan Pardesi Putt called to know about his father's condition, the father said that I am fine. But meet me soon. While waiting, the father started growing old and after some time the expatriate son returned from the country in search of his father's cool Shiv.
Frollo Layers 'Okay'
The layers of All is Well must be opened. If you do not open these layers in time and do not pray for someone's pain and recovery, then you will not be able to sleep for the rest of your life by brushing off the ashes of his body and saying 'Everything is fine'. Hauka will become bigger than this and you will be given such a torture that you will live with it for the rest of your life and leave this world. Remember that when you call your loved one, do not hesitate to say that everything is fine if you are not well. When you connect your mind with yours then you will definitely find a possible solution to every problem, difficulty and sorrow. After solving this, you will be able to say everything correctly in the true sense and there will be no mental burden on your mind while saying it.
I am not always right and neither are you. That is the truth of life. Denying it would be a desperate attempt to avoid real life. Do you often say that everything is fine?
the catchphrase made everything alright
'All is well' has become our catchphrase. Sometimes it was a symbol of our dominance. Most of the time close friends or acquaintances of heart will soon understand the sentiment. But how many of us are like that, no one needs to be told. In modern times our relations, relationships have become objects of use, which after fulfilling personal interests are reduced to garbage. We all fight this internal war. Every moment, every day and every time. A part of our life. It is not just a war, but a struggle to make ourselves proud, to mark golden times, to weave dreams, to put in all our efforts to fulfill them and to make a person out of ourselves who can become a complete human being. Sometimes we used to say everything properly so that our relatives do not know about our sufferings, because not listening properly will hurt his tender heart a lot and he will have to face a season of suffering too.